"God cares alot more about who we are and who we are becoming than about who we once were" - Dale A Renlund
This last year threw a wrench in my progress. SO in order to get my emotions back on track, I flew out to Utah for LIVE BIG again in February. This opportunity was a new experience this time around because I was able to build upon the progress I made last year. I was the first to start dancing after each break (big improvement from last year). My smile was infectious and I found my path once again.
Everything is just a perspective! The ONLY thing we have control over is ourselves. I love the line from the move - 'After Earth' that says "danger is real...fear is a choice" You can apply this to anger, worry, offense, indifference, even love and happiness. To me the greatest is peace... That often comes from love. You can choose.
This last year threw a wrench in my progress. SO in order to get my emotions back on track, I flew out to Utah for LIVE BIG again in February. This opportunity was a new experience this time around because I was able to build upon the progress I made last year. I was the first to start dancing after each break (big improvement from last year). My smile was infectious and I found my path once again.
Everything is just a perspective! The ONLY thing we have control over is ourselves. I love the line from the move - 'After Earth' that says "danger is real...fear is a choice" You can apply this to anger, worry, offense, indifference, even love and happiness. To me the greatest is peace... That often comes from love. You can choose.
I am not disposable. I will not allow men to treat me as though I am. I am worthy of Love and Belonging. My heart Is a treasure and I will only share my heart with those who earn it. I am beautiful inside and out. I will only allow men in my life who treat me like the Queen Heavenly Father created me to be. I love myself
Be the Goddess you were destined to become and be worthy of the righteous man you seek.
The people above are my "Live Big Tribe". By the end of the 3 day, grueling 14 hour days... We were a family. This is Gerald, the most amazing Life Coach I've worked with. He's a strong member of my church as is the rest of his team leading us towards a higher way of thinking and living. He loves Everybody, he serves everybody, he radiates love and peace. What a wonderful example of Christ like love in today's world. I have decided this is the ONLY form of marriage counseling or pre-marital counseling. Gerald leads a marriage retreat in a cabin in the mountains a few times a year, I've decided this will be my pre-requisite for my next engagement or for my honeymoon. Building upon a firm foundation to avoid the pitfalls of past ruts that can be carried on from the last failed marriage. This blog post is compiled of notes from the Live Big conference. Remember the questions we ask have the power to bring connection to ourselves and others more fully.
Everyday we get to choose who we are and what we want. Every choice shows where my priorities are. The past does not equal the future. My history doesn't hold me hostage. TODAY is a new canvas to paint. SO how do I want to show up in my life? We tend to be like the 5 closest people in our lives. SO choose wisely!
Our comfort zones are places we've built in our lives, but does my comfort zone bring me happiness? Everything I want is OUTSIDE my comfort zone! SO I must be courageous and break patterns NOW to see something different for my future. Now the sole purpose of my mind is to keep me safe, the brain triggers a protective mode "danger, run" So observe when a fear shows up and when I retreat back - which is comfortable, I get the opportunity to choose for myself if I want to stay stagnant or be courageous. The mind works in pictures. If we can visualize it, we can and will create it! SO step into clarity = Power. Gain the clarity of what I want in order to create it. First I must find out where I am and how did I get here. All the results in the details of my life regarding money, love, health, relationships, are the direct result of how I see myself. My external world is a reflection of my internal world. The thermostat cannot be reset until I change who I am.
Everyday we get to choose who we are and what we want. Every choice shows where my priorities are. The past does not equal the future. My history doesn't hold me hostage. TODAY is a new canvas to paint. SO how do I want to show up in my life? We tend to be like the 5 closest people in our lives. SO choose wisely!
Our comfort zones are places we've built in our lives, but does my comfort zone bring me happiness? Everything I want is OUTSIDE my comfort zone! SO I must be courageous and break patterns NOW to see something different for my future. Now the sole purpose of my mind is to keep me safe, the brain triggers a protective mode "danger, run" So observe when a fear shows up and when I retreat back - which is comfortable, I get the opportunity to choose for myself if I want to stay stagnant or be courageous. The mind works in pictures. If we can visualize it, we can and will create it! SO step into clarity = Power. Gain the clarity of what I want in order to create it. First I must find out where I am and how did I get here. All the results in the details of my life regarding money, love, health, relationships, are the direct result of how I see myself. My external world is a reflection of my internal world. The thermostat cannot be reset until I change who I am.
SO rewrite my internal Blueprint. Blueprint = what I believe I deserve.
"Blame the results on what I do, if I had a different result, then I'd change and be happy"... You cannot have enough willpower to over power your self image. The universe is handing me anything I could ever want. What would I choose?
Conscious Lifestyle Design
Align myself with my ideal life. What would happen if I chose to see the greatness in others?? What would happen if I give love openly?
"the greatness I see in you" group exercise is intense. We hold hands and gaze into the eyes of someone we have never met and say - "the greatness I see in you is...." and we just follow the spirit and intuition and become vulnerable with our feelings for 3 minutes each.
We no longer live based on others perceptions. We no longer wear a mask, Just exist here to love. When things fall apart you can put it back together more beautifully than it was before. Create what you never thought was possible before.
Power comes when I take responsibility for how I commit. A Conscious creator is the foundation to create the life I want. Stand in power in my life or stand as an unconscious reactor (victim).
I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THE RESULTS IN MY LIFE.
My past choices created the results I am living today. SO the tree analogy: The roots are our core belief systems. What's above the ground is a result of the roots and seeds I have planted and created. My action choices are the trees body. The fruit it produces is the results. Should I blame the fruit for being rotten? The roots must change to change the fruit. SO I must replant new seeds, the power is in the roots. SO examine the stories that I don't like in my life and see how I got there. SO I can make different choices in the future to create the reality I want. Who would I have to be to naturally create those results I desire? The purpose of life isn't to escape problems. These are accelerated growth opportunities!
7 Irrefutable Laws of Power : 1. change your story, 2. master the primal instinct 3. channel secondary instinct 4. Align body 5. Align mind 6. Align spirit 7. stress management
If my story about myself is broken- everything I create will fall apart. What's my story about myself? My spiritual relationship, relationship to myself, relationship with others, health, wealth, contribution. It's not right or wrong, it just is. What would my story about myself need to be to have the life I want? SO identify the story, is it true?, what is possible when I have a different story?, what story do I have when I experience those things? My actions need to stay consistent with the fruit I want to create. When I nurture myself on the inside- others honor me too. God makes us unique so why do I want to look the same as everybody else? I only need MY approval. I am no longer standing in the past and IM not living in the future so make peace with myself and stop running from myself. I am a loving, capable, powerful woman. Emotions cause an emotional tug of war so get out of my head and get into my body, emotions can take me somewhere I do not want to go. Emotions drive creation, but they can also be destructive. Always stay mindfully in the Present.
So how are these emotions serving me? What's the message I need to learn? What would I like to experience instead?
Dismiss the voices in my head (negative self-talk) that belong to somebody else whose harmed me. "This is your story, not mine. You are dismissed" Negative emotions only destroy. I am the only one that can take care of me.
Living in Alignment
1. Awareness- becoming conscious
2. Accountability- I am responsible for where I am, I am not powerless, I have made choice in my life that brought me here
3. Alignment - what do I want to create and how do I do that? What do I need to do now to get the results I want later?
4. Action- What have I done in the past to create what I don't want to continue.
How do I align myself with what I want my life to look like? Get a clear vision in my mind. What do I need to be and what do I need to believe to create this result? There comes a moment of decision - I want to be someone different that who I've been. So Believe it BEFORE it can happen, once I believe it about myself - it will happen naturally. I choose to be a Conscious Creator
"Blame the results on what I do, if I had a different result, then I'd change and be happy"... You cannot have enough willpower to over power your self image. The universe is handing me anything I could ever want. What would I choose?
Conscious Lifestyle Design
Align myself with my ideal life. What would happen if I chose to see the greatness in others?? What would happen if I give love openly?
"the greatness I see in you" group exercise is intense. We hold hands and gaze into the eyes of someone we have never met and say - "the greatness I see in you is...." and we just follow the spirit and intuition and become vulnerable with our feelings for 3 minutes each.
We no longer live based on others perceptions. We no longer wear a mask, Just exist here to love. When things fall apart you can put it back together more beautifully than it was before. Create what you never thought was possible before.
Power comes when I take responsibility for how I commit. A Conscious creator is the foundation to create the life I want. Stand in power in my life or stand as an unconscious reactor (victim).
I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THE RESULTS IN MY LIFE.
My past choices created the results I am living today. SO the tree analogy: The roots are our core belief systems. What's above the ground is a result of the roots and seeds I have planted and created. My action choices are the trees body. The fruit it produces is the results. Should I blame the fruit for being rotten? The roots must change to change the fruit. SO I must replant new seeds, the power is in the roots. SO examine the stories that I don't like in my life and see how I got there. SO I can make different choices in the future to create the reality I want. Who would I have to be to naturally create those results I desire? The purpose of life isn't to escape problems. These are accelerated growth opportunities!
7 Irrefutable Laws of Power : 1. change your story, 2. master the primal instinct 3. channel secondary instinct 4. Align body 5. Align mind 6. Align spirit 7. stress management
If my story about myself is broken- everything I create will fall apart. What's my story about myself? My spiritual relationship, relationship to myself, relationship with others, health, wealth, contribution. It's not right or wrong, it just is. What would my story about myself need to be to have the life I want? SO identify the story, is it true?, what is possible when I have a different story?, what story do I have when I experience those things? My actions need to stay consistent with the fruit I want to create. When I nurture myself on the inside- others honor me too. God makes us unique so why do I want to look the same as everybody else? I only need MY approval. I am no longer standing in the past and IM not living in the future so make peace with myself and stop running from myself. I am a loving, capable, powerful woman. Emotions cause an emotional tug of war so get out of my head and get into my body, emotions can take me somewhere I do not want to go. Emotions drive creation, but they can also be destructive. Always stay mindfully in the Present.
So how are these emotions serving me? What's the message I need to learn? What would I like to experience instead?
Dismiss the voices in my head (negative self-talk) that belong to somebody else whose harmed me. "This is your story, not mine. You are dismissed" Negative emotions only destroy. I am the only one that can take care of me.
Living in Alignment
1. Awareness- becoming conscious
2. Accountability- I am responsible for where I am, I am not powerless, I have made choice in my life that brought me here
3. Alignment - what do I want to create and how do I do that? What do I need to do now to get the results I want later?
4. Action- What have I done in the past to create what I don't want to continue.
How do I align myself with what I want my life to look like? Get a clear vision in my mind. What do I need to be and what do I need to believe to create this result? There comes a moment of decision - I want to be someone different that who I've been. So Believe it BEFORE it can happen, once I believe it about myself - it will happen naturally. I choose to be a Conscious Creator
"Im not worthy of the type of man that I want, IM not worthy of love...here please validate that about me"....
We always create what we deep down believe we deserve. Heavy right?!
"I Love me, Im getting better and better everyday. I deserve to be healthy because I am in love with me"
Take a deep breath and hold it as long as you can.... (ill wait....)
now let it go
It no longer serves you, there's no point in holding onto that breath, are you afraid there wont be another one? no, of course not. Our bodies know how to work and function when I align myself with health and nutrition. The same goes for our past. Our negative thought processes. Let them go, they no longer serve you. Thank them for teaching you and dismiss them.
Identify my soul purpose
What do I enjoy? What do I want to learn? What are my natural gifts? What are the skills Ive invested time developing? What are the challenges in my life Id like to overcome?
Feed your mind 30 minutes a day or more. Allow mentors to speak into my life. Invest in my future, Build skills. Everything is a mindset, align that mindset. How have I created the results want? What are the sabotaging beliefs?
Align the Mindset with the skillset - It's never about resources, its about resourcefulness. I am enough,
I deserve a man who will cherish me. A man who will treat me like the Goddess I am. Believe it and I will create it.
Once I shift my mind, the reality Im living will shift too.
Get quiet and listen to the inner dialogue. We tend to seek noise cause there's noise within. Find the peaceful quiet within, meditate, go for a walk, Life will throw us a storm and we must be connected to the peaceful place within to have the calm within the storm of life...
We are attracted to people who trigger our deepest pains. We must learn skills to develop powerful relationships. The refiners fire is painful and burns, but it shapens me.
How to seduce a woman ;
women multi task while men can only think of one thing at a time. A mans brain is formed of boxes, each a different category and they don't touch. But a womans brain is like a ball of twine, everything is connected. So gather a womans thoughts. - no fixing, only listening and validating. don't touch her, just talk and engage. ask follow up questions, make them laugh, read poetry. Then add touch, but comforting not sexual. then take it away, make her want you to touch her. "i feel safe, safe touch is comforting, I like that, I want more". Then add playful touch and then stop again. When she is ready to cross that threshold, then you can go for the bullseye. Honor hem, help them to feel safe, like a partnership. engage physically even if we don't have sex, this is true intimacy...not just sex.
We always create what we deep down believe we deserve. Heavy right?!
"I Love me, Im getting better and better everyday. I deserve to be healthy because I am in love with me"
Take a deep breath and hold it as long as you can.... (ill wait....)
now let it go
It no longer serves you, there's no point in holding onto that breath, are you afraid there wont be another one? no, of course not. Our bodies know how to work and function when I align myself with health and nutrition. The same goes for our past. Our negative thought processes. Let them go, they no longer serve you. Thank them for teaching you and dismiss them.
Identify my soul purpose
What do I enjoy? What do I want to learn? What are my natural gifts? What are the skills Ive invested time developing? What are the challenges in my life Id like to overcome?
Feed your mind 30 minutes a day or more. Allow mentors to speak into my life. Invest in my future, Build skills. Everything is a mindset, align that mindset. How have I created the results want? What are the sabotaging beliefs?
Align the Mindset with the skillset - It's never about resources, its about resourcefulness. I am enough,
I deserve a man who will cherish me. A man who will treat me like the Goddess I am. Believe it and I will create it.
Once I shift my mind, the reality Im living will shift too.
Get quiet and listen to the inner dialogue. We tend to seek noise cause there's noise within. Find the peaceful quiet within, meditate, go for a walk, Life will throw us a storm and we must be connected to the peaceful place within to have the calm within the storm of life...
We are attracted to people who trigger our deepest pains. We must learn skills to develop powerful relationships. The refiners fire is painful and burns, but it shapens me.
How to seduce a woman ;
women multi task while men can only think of one thing at a time. A mans brain is formed of boxes, each a different category and they don't touch. But a womans brain is like a ball of twine, everything is connected. So gather a womans thoughts. - no fixing, only listening and validating. don't touch her, just talk and engage. ask follow up questions, make them laugh, read poetry. Then add touch, but comforting not sexual. then take it away, make her want you to touch her. "i feel safe, safe touch is comforting, I like that, I want more". Then add playful touch and then stop again. When she is ready to cross that threshold, then you can go for the bullseye. Honor hem, help them to feel safe, like a partnership. engage physically even if we don't have sex, this is true intimacy...not just sex.
Your past experiences have taught you compassion, but it's time to let them go, they no longer serve you, just like holding onto a breath.
What are my patterns? What do I believe under the surface?
-IM fat, IM worthless, IM repulsive, marriage = fighting, men always hurt me, men lie and cheat, im unsafe with men, men are violent because Im difficult and Im hard to love. I cannot depend on men, they waste money, they never follow through, Im not important enough for him to make time for me in his day, all men just want another woman, I cannot trust him to guard my heart to become ONe with me because IM worthless. OK. OK. This is MY unhealthy thought processes I have worked very hard to recreate. I know how bad it sounds, you were just allowed into a woman's mind, most women have this running in their heads, but they don't say it out loud... SO BE GENTLE WITH ME and no judging. Please.
DO NOT react on emotions, my brain stops working when Im emotional... TRUE STORY. I recently ruined a great relationship because of this.
Masculine energy desires to be respected, seen as the hero so he feels important. Mental energy as opposed to emotional energy. The have a nothing box they need "space" to figure stuff out.
Feminine energy - is nurturing, heart centered, sees possibilities, connecting, needs validated, compassionate and empathetic.
When the woman takes upon the masculine role as a single mom in order to provide for the family, the man feels emasculated and loses confidence cause IM no longer feminine. We crave a warrior - able to hold me in my feminine craziness. "I've got you" - a safe place to land, he loves me for who I am. I can just be me in that space.
How can I become in tune with my feminine energy?
-self care- become attractive (pluck my bushy eyebrows) and dress nicer, maybe wear makeup. (but I believe God created me... IM a work of art, why shave, pluck, cover with make-up and hang jewelry to dress up a work of art from the master Creator?) - maybe a man will love me in my natural state? Or they will continue to search for the prettier version.
- let men help me and trust them to follow through (yikes!!! OK, I will try, but they usually have an ulterior motive)
- emotional - cry and allow myself to express my emotions
Women crave conscious men, not the egotistical jerk. or the wimp.. Women want a man who can connect, mature, knows who he is, confident, masculine... If IM too masculine then he feels like a doormat (that's not an emotion I want to cause)
How can a man wake up to his masculine role?
-love himself!
- focus on a project and complete it
- practice taking care of her
- boost testosterone by working out
- when women ask for help, the man feels needed. - "I NEED YOU" women empower him by asking "I love when you help me without being asked". Women - never complain, criticize, control. Women ask for help, ask for advice, and acknowledge his achievements. "WIll you please wash the dishes for me?" (flutter the eyelids and offer a sweet kiss, combine the thank you with his love language) This sort of asking preserves his agency.
We train those around us how to treat us!
So what are 10 ways you can fill yourself up with love?
- Dance, connect with the earth, speak nice words to myself, connect with God, dress nicer, connect with friends and laugh, listen to TED talks and the Conscious Creator Mentoring NEtwork, read scriptures, Give love freely and trust it'll come back to me!, surround myself with people I aspire to be like.
What are my patterns? What do I believe under the surface?
-IM fat, IM worthless, IM repulsive, marriage = fighting, men always hurt me, men lie and cheat, im unsafe with men, men are violent because Im difficult and Im hard to love. I cannot depend on men, they waste money, they never follow through, Im not important enough for him to make time for me in his day, all men just want another woman, I cannot trust him to guard my heart to become ONe with me because IM worthless. OK. OK. This is MY unhealthy thought processes I have worked very hard to recreate. I know how bad it sounds, you were just allowed into a woman's mind, most women have this running in their heads, but they don't say it out loud... SO BE GENTLE WITH ME and no judging. Please.
DO NOT react on emotions, my brain stops working when Im emotional... TRUE STORY. I recently ruined a great relationship because of this.
Masculine energy desires to be respected, seen as the hero so he feels important. Mental energy as opposed to emotional energy. The have a nothing box they need "space" to figure stuff out.
Feminine energy - is nurturing, heart centered, sees possibilities, connecting, needs validated, compassionate and empathetic.
When the woman takes upon the masculine role as a single mom in order to provide for the family, the man feels emasculated and loses confidence cause IM no longer feminine. We crave a warrior - able to hold me in my feminine craziness. "I've got you" - a safe place to land, he loves me for who I am. I can just be me in that space.
How can I become in tune with my feminine energy?
-self care- become attractive (pluck my bushy eyebrows) and dress nicer, maybe wear makeup. (but I believe God created me... IM a work of art, why shave, pluck, cover with make-up and hang jewelry to dress up a work of art from the master Creator?) - maybe a man will love me in my natural state? Or they will continue to search for the prettier version.
- let men help me and trust them to follow through (yikes!!! OK, I will try, but they usually have an ulterior motive)
- emotional - cry and allow myself to express my emotions
Women crave conscious men, not the egotistical jerk. or the wimp.. Women want a man who can connect, mature, knows who he is, confident, masculine... If IM too masculine then he feels like a doormat (that's not an emotion I want to cause)
How can a man wake up to his masculine role?
-love himself!
- focus on a project and complete it
- practice taking care of her
- boost testosterone by working out
- when women ask for help, the man feels needed. - "I NEED YOU" women empower him by asking "I love when you help me without being asked". Women - never complain, criticize, control. Women ask for help, ask for advice, and acknowledge his achievements. "WIll you please wash the dishes for me?" (flutter the eyelids and offer a sweet kiss, combine the thank you with his love language) This sort of asking preserves his agency.
We train those around us how to treat us!
So what are 10 ways you can fill yourself up with love?
- Dance, connect with the earth, speak nice words to myself, connect with God, dress nicer, connect with friends and laugh, listen to TED talks and the Conscious Creator Mentoring NEtwork, read scriptures, Give love freely and trust it'll come back to me!, surround myself with people I aspire to be like.
Daily Power Hour:
1. move and connect with my body
2. meditate - connect with God and myself
3. pray - gratitude
4. affirmations - speak life to my soul
5. visualize- what I want to create in my life
Emotional recipe for success/happiness/love OR misery and depression=
1. Physiology, 2. Focus 3. thoughts
Make space for people who WANT to be around me. Let people leave who don't want to be in my life. When I show up positive, others will be positive around me.
I WANT A GROWTH PARTNER in my life. Stop holding others in a space of being wrong. Re-write the story and find all they are doing right. Show up empowered with love... Do not validate the limiting beliefs of "Im not good enough".
Either say " that's not my story about myself so that doesn't hurt me" OR "Thanks I know" and own it!
Visualization: to release toxicity to help forgiveness in relationships. Forgiveness sets me free. I forgive you, I love you, I choose to let go of that pain, it no longer serves me. Old reminders will show up... those around me are still trained BY ME to treat me a certain way. Change takes hard work, but it all starts inside ME.
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE AND CHANGE YOUR LIFE
I fully love myself - my past, my choices, my actions, my shadow, my imperfections. I trust others that I can give love fully for the basic reason of wanting to share love. If they don't return my love, it's ok cause I love myself. But I trust I will receive the love back that I put out into the world. I love myself enough to treat myself with perfect love and love others perfectly and completely. It's one thing to live my life, it's another to create it. You cannot create what you don't know. The most dangerous thing in the world is what you don't know.
1. move and connect with my body
2. meditate - connect with God and myself
3. pray - gratitude
4. affirmations - speak life to my soul
5. visualize- what I want to create in my life
Emotional recipe for success/happiness/love OR misery and depression=
1. Physiology, 2. Focus 3. thoughts
Make space for people who WANT to be around me. Let people leave who don't want to be in my life. When I show up positive, others will be positive around me.
I WANT A GROWTH PARTNER in my life. Stop holding others in a space of being wrong. Re-write the story and find all they are doing right. Show up empowered with love... Do not validate the limiting beliefs of "Im not good enough".
Either say " that's not my story about myself so that doesn't hurt me" OR "Thanks I know" and own it!
Visualization: to release toxicity to help forgiveness in relationships. Forgiveness sets me free. I forgive you, I love you, I choose to let go of that pain, it no longer serves me. Old reminders will show up... those around me are still trained BY ME to treat me a certain way. Change takes hard work, but it all starts inside ME.
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE AND CHANGE YOUR LIFE
I fully love myself - my past, my choices, my actions, my shadow, my imperfections. I trust others that I can give love fully for the basic reason of wanting to share love. If they don't return my love, it's ok cause I love myself. But I trust I will receive the love back that I put out into the world. I love myself enough to treat myself with perfect love and love others perfectly and completely. It's one thing to live my life, it's another to create it. You cannot create what you don't know. The most dangerous thing in the world is what you don't know.
Successful Habits:
power hour
affirmations
creative visualization
committed to constant and never ending improvement
bring in mentors to support me
support system- accountability team
My subconscious is powered by:
1. repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, positive thought behaviors, recondition my brain to believe what I learn
2. Shift happens when I decide to leave the old patterns behind, do more than just commit to a new path, actually build the path with a daily choice
3. emotion anchors it deeply. when I see myself as a "daughter of God" I will experience this as a reality because I see myself differently
4. creative visualization - the subconscious cannot distinguish between what is real and what I believe is real. Lets have this work FOR us instead of against us. Use the power of creative visualization to create exactly what I want. Imagine my scared self and be at peace. Visualize having already achieved those goals.
I believe in Myself!
Our self-image is like a rubber band. If you cannot reinforce it, it will snap back. SO how can I set myself up to WIN?
Principles of Change
1. accountability
2. repitition
3. tribe
4. daily action
5. immediate actin
6. little things
7. simple
8. something we can do on our worst day
power hour
affirmations
creative visualization
committed to constant and never ending improvement
bring in mentors to support me
support system- accountability team
My subconscious is powered by:
1. repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, positive thought behaviors, recondition my brain to believe what I learn
2. Shift happens when I decide to leave the old patterns behind, do more than just commit to a new path, actually build the path with a daily choice
3. emotion anchors it deeply. when I see myself as a "daughter of God" I will experience this as a reality because I see myself differently
4. creative visualization - the subconscious cannot distinguish between what is real and what I believe is real. Lets have this work FOR us instead of against us. Use the power of creative visualization to create exactly what I want. Imagine my scared self and be at peace. Visualize having already achieved those goals.
I believe in Myself!
Our self-image is like a rubber band. If you cannot reinforce it, it will snap back. SO how can I set myself up to WIN?
Principles of Change
1. accountability
2. repitition
3. tribe
4. daily action
5. immediate actin
6. little things
7. simple
8. something we can do on our worst day
Communicate in a non manipulative way. NOT in a way in which I use techniques to get the results I want. Not demanding. Offer agency in my interactions. When I need something - state my needs and ask.
find a ritual I can do on even my worst days. (reactive or proactive)
-each day I am going to compliment myself
-each day I am going to reach out to another person and offer love
-each day I will offer positive affirmations and be a growth partner to my loved ones
-each day I will dance
Be powerful in my word! Follow through with what I say. DO what I say and people will trust me. Declare honesty.
What can I do today to help my partner to feel loved?
Declare my failures and clean up quickly, and recommit to my goals.
Shame feeds the cycle. The more you fight the addiction, the worse it gets. The more ashamed I feel, the more I act out. Shame causes me to act out for comfort... Vicious cycle... break the cycle - Declare my failures and clean up quickly, and recommit to my goals.
I have the choice. ASk myself - why am I feeling this way? find healthy ways to meet that need...and love myself... Addictions are a reactive pattern so create a new pattern. Fall in love with yourself. Get present and quiet with my demons and after I face my fears and mistakes, my addictions stop ....naturally! cool right?!
find a ritual I can do on even my worst days. (reactive or proactive)
-each day I am going to compliment myself
-each day I am going to reach out to another person and offer love
-each day I will offer positive affirmations and be a growth partner to my loved ones
-each day I will dance
Be powerful in my word! Follow through with what I say. DO what I say and people will trust me. Declare honesty.
What can I do today to help my partner to feel loved?
Declare my failures and clean up quickly, and recommit to my goals.
Shame feeds the cycle. The more you fight the addiction, the worse it gets. The more ashamed I feel, the more I act out. Shame causes me to act out for comfort... Vicious cycle... break the cycle - Declare my failures and clean up quickly, and recommit to my goals.
I have the choice. ASk myself - why am I feeling this way? find healthy ways to meet that need...and love myself... Addictions are a reactive pattern so create a new pattern. Fall in love with yourself. Get present and quiet with my demons and after I face my fears and mistakes, my addictions stop ....naturally! cool right?!
Love is.... The commitment to the success of another person
subconscious in alignment with my conscious desires
When would NOW be a good time to move forward with my life?
Conscious and never ending improvement
*power hour - energize my body, make my body a priority,
*gratitude - energy and frequency of abundance. gratitude begets more blessings, begin with my center and spiral outward.
*connect with God and humble myself
*record my affirmations and speak them daily to reprogram my brain and develop more confidence.
*review your goal
REMEMBER YOU HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE..... LIVE BIG!
subconscious in alignment with my conscious desires
When would NOW be a good time to move forward with my life?
Conscious and never ending improvement
*power hour - energize my body, make my body a priority,
*gratitude - energy and frequency of abundance. gratitude begets more blessings, begin with my center and spiral outward.
*connect with God and humble myself
*record my affirmations and speak them daily to reprogram my brain and develop more confidence.
*review your goal
REMEMBER YOU HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE..... LIVE BIG!